Only with time do we really learn who the other person is and come to love the person for him- or herself and not just for the feelings and experiences they give us.
I think marriage is designed to call us out of ourselves and learn to love the ‘different.’
…You only discover your own happiness after each of you has put the happiness of your spouse ahead of your own, in a sustained way, in response to what Jesus has done for you.
Christian marriage is marked by discipline and self-denial. Christianity does not therefore depreciate marriage, it sanctifies it.
Long-term marital intimacy requires accepting this truth: to stop giving yourself to your spouse is to spiritually divorce them
There’s profound joy in the mutual and reckless pursuit of each other in marriage.
Generosity is a huge part of marriage because giving is a natural outflow of love.
When we love with no expectation or promise of reciprocity, we know what it means to sacrifice and deny ourselves in ways we wouldn’t otherwise.
Men, let me plead with you: The greatest fight of your life is not lust. You may think it is, but it isn’t. The greatest fight of your life will be rejecting the passivity that has infected your heart since the fall.
The surrender of your will: If you do it right in marriage, you’ll enjoy the blessing of it. If you do it wrong, you’ll never really find the fulfillment in it.