Only with time do we really learn who the other person is and come to love the person for him- or herself and not just for the feelings and experiences they give us.
Christian marriage is marked by discipline and self-denial. Christianity does not therefore depreciate marriage, it sanctifies it.
Long-term marital intimacy requires accepting this truth: to stop giving yourself to your spouse is to spiritually divorce them
I think marriage is designed to call us out of ourselves and learn to love the ‘different.’
Whether we are husband or wife, we are not to live for ourselves but for the other. And that is the hardest yet single most important function of being a husband or a wife in marriage.”
…You only discover your own happiness after each of you has put the happiness of your spouse ahead of your own, in a sustained way, in response to what Jesus has done for you.