Love as distinct from “being in love” is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by the grace which both partners ask, and receive from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself
A good marriage isn’t something you find; it’s something you make.
Your foundation of friendship will sustain you when feelings of romance come and go.
When we love with no expectation or promise of reciprocity, we know what it means to sacrifice and deny ourselves in ways we wouldn’t otherwise.
In too many marital conflicts, we work too hard at winning the argument and too little at winning the heart. You can express your feelings and thoughts, even share criticisms and complaints, but the end goal of marital conflict should be care for your spouse’s soul, not trying to rack up the most points. Seeking to win is not love.
The next time feelings of love are sparse, remember that love is an action to be chosen.
There’s profound joy in the mutual and reckless pursuit of each other in marriage.
Pursue each other passionately and enjoy being pursued by your beloved.
The key to sustaining marriage is not in replacing bad light bulbs with new bulbs of the same nature, it’s in replacing your brokenness with Christ’s completeness.
Generosity is a huge part of marriage because giving is a natural outflow of love.
May your love be the kind that endures even when your spouse’s ugly is showing.
The most potent aspect of love’s endurance is patience. Patience in marriage is the difference between peace and chaos, unity and bickering, joy and discord.
